Hi, all!! Meant to post this one earlier, but finals week took more of a toll than expected. Ironically, this post is Finals week as told by, everyone's favorite Christmas movie, "Elf." I don't know about you, but there are some times I swear I'm Buddy the Elf (no joke, if you call me any time in December, I will answer with, "Buddy the Elf, what's your favorite color?"). So let me let you relate to our favorite elf through these gifs that describe finals week. When you've procrastinated studying and can't put it off anymore: When your teacher says, "Oh, you'll be fine!": And when your blood has become 50% Starbucks due to all the coffee you've consumed in the last week: When you're confident in your health/biology answers: Fantasizing about FINALLY getting to Christmas Break: When you decide you'd be better off making your multiple choice sheet look like a certain shape: When you think you completely failed: And, lastly, when you're so overjoyed & can't stop smiling because you actually DIDN'T fail:
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I have very high standards in every area of my life. If my grades are below a certain average, they aren't good enough. If I'm not reaching goals for my fitness, I readjust to get back on track. One place that I really have standards is relationships. I have standards in my friendships, but today I want to talk about standards in romantic relationships.
Not too long ago, I was with a group of friends when someone said something about me not having a boyfriend. Before I could even reply, another frienf smirked, "Yeah, because her standards are so high that she'll never get a date." I was speachless for a second, but then I found the words to say, "I just want to make sure I'm with the right person." My friend scoffed, "You do realize that there's no Prince Charming out there. There's no perfect guy for you. You need to date whoever comes along. It's not like God even cares about your realtionships. Even if you don't like the guy, you need to date him because you need to be in a relationship to be happy." I was so in shock that I didn't say anything for the rest of the period. Girls, high standards are NOT a bad thing. Some may disagree with me on this, but dating is an evaluation. It's evaluating someone for marriage. Why would you date someone who you didn't like, knew was bad for you, or didn't live up to the special man you knew had to be out there? You wouldn't marry them, so why would you date them? Don't get me wrong, I'm not against dating. I don't care if I date ten guys or one before finding THE guy, as long as I don't lose myself in dating. I don't think that everyone will or should marry the first person you date. Dating can be very valuable because it shows you what you do and don't like in a spouse; it's a learning experience. But that doesn't mean that you should date everyone that comes along. A few days later, I met up with another friend for coffee. While we were talking, I told her this story. The first thing she told me was, "Your standards are not too high. They're their for a reason. It's because God totally cares about your relationships." She is so right. If you're looking for certain qualities, it's probably because God has put them on your heart because he knows what you need. The next thing she told me was that a small group leader she had had made a list of all of the qualities she wanted in a husband. If she wanted to date a guy, she compared him with the list. If the guy didn't have ONE- that's right, one- quality that was on the list, she didn't date him because she was trusting that God had the perfect guy for her. Wow. Talk about putting faith in his ability to write your happily ever after. But, she was right. There's no such thing as "the perfect guy", but there is such a thing as the perfect guy for you. God has Him, and is shaping him as we speak, just as he's shaping you. You do not need to lower your standards, date every guy that you meet, or feel pressured to get into or stay in a relationship. Trust God with your love, because he is love. If there's anyone that can bring you to the perfect man, it's Him. Later in the week, as I was making a list of my own, I was scrolling through my Facebook feed and saw an article from Jordan Lee of Soul Scripts. Now, if you're not following Jordan Lee, go change that right now. Okay, now that you're back, let's continue. The article was titled, "Is Chivalry Dead?" and the caption was something along the lines of, "Your standards are not too high." Naturally, I had a, "God, is that you?" moment, and clicked the link. In the article, Jordan talked about a date she went on, the chilvary a man showed her, and how shocked she was. The reason chilvary is "dead" is that we have lowered our standards. As my English teacher once said, "A guy will treat you however you let him." I'm not saying that the lack of gentlemen is our fault, ladies. It's not. But maybe if we kept our standards up, because YOU are worth more than precious jewels, chilvary wouldn't be dead, and the typical, "Oh, that's just a boy for you" excuse wouldn't be so common. Do not settle. Do not lower your standards. Do not forget how valuable you are. You are a dauhter of the king, and you deserve someone who understands that. Xoxo, Natalie Link to Jordan Lee's article: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/is-chivalry-dead-your-worth-is-not IG: @ville.girl.blog Email: [email protected] |
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